You were made for love

Since God is love and we are made in His image, you and I were made for love. In fact, just as the Father , Son and Holy Spirit live in a eternal community of self giving love, we are made for relationship. The boundaries that guarantee the greatest fulfillment in relationships are found in the word of God. Satan loves to take something that is God given and pervert it. The rejection-triad seeds our hearts and mind with satanic propaganda that causes us to reject ourselves. If you reject yourself, you cannot fully  accept others into your heart unless they exist to medicate the pre-existing pain in your heart from prior relationships. Rejection can makes us intensely focused on ourselves. We begin to believe that the relationship primarily exist to meet our needs. When the other person can no longer gives us our " emotional fix" because what met the need yesterday, cannot meet the need today we either look for someone else  to supply the "emotional fix" or use fear and manipulation to make the other person give us what we want. We are best when we give. In fact, a man and woman in marriage are at they best when they focus on being givers. If my heart is wounded, the tendency is to give to get my " emotional fix". This does not bring fulfillment to other person.  Feel free to ask questions about  the rejection- triad. There are ways to get free from this emotional mayhem without disconnecting yourself from your marriage. If there is violence or physical abuse immediately get professional assistance. A renowned man of God said, If I change, everything  change. Sometimes when we  see our wrong without attaching its existence to our mates action  and change without requiring our mate to change it provides an environment that positions the marriage for revitalization. We can only see our sin the right way when we see our sin against God. This prevents us from basing our repentance on our mates repentance. We are living a season where God wants to heal relationships.  If there is violence or physical abuse get immediate help from a professional. What questions or remarks do you have?