Yesterday I posted in FB some hard , but true admonitions for us husbands. Today, I am going to mentioned something that may be a challenge for SOME wives, but not all. Sometimes wives may get frustrated, angry or exasperated, because it seems like her husband is pouting because of the lack of attention, or feelings that he is not number 1 or simply because of the lack of sex. Some marriage experts believe that sex is the number one need of the husband, others believe that it's the second or third need in a husband's life. However, we must conclude that if it is a priority in a husband's life. There is a difference between having sex or being sexually satisfied. A wife's attitude towards sex - whether fun or cold or let's just get this over with or hot and heated makes all the difference towards your husband. In other words, your husband needs sex and he needs his wife to love sex with him. Leman said, " He longs to be intimate with the one person he trusts above all others and that's you. If he is fulfilled in his relationship with you he will seek no others." Leman goes on to say if a husband is respected, needed and fulfilled by his wife, he will make a much better husband and dad.
The dilemma that most wives face is juggling, their jobs, children, in-law relationships, friends, church etc with only emotional leftovers to give their husbands. Rather than saying to yourself, " He is such a baby" realize that he is paying you the biggest honor or compliment by saying that you are the only one he wants to be intimate with. Remember, if he feels fulfill with you, he will seek no other. About 25 years ago I heard a woman of God, who had been happily married for 55 years , a pioneer in deliverance ministry say to wives as an admonition, A man can be tempted to leave a wife he loves for a woman who respects and admire him. Prayer is not a substitute for what I just mentioned. Praying about doing something that you know you should do is simply rebellion. Ladies, how you look at your husband, the tone of your voice, etc can positively change the atmosphere in your marriage. I've been involve in marriage coaching for over 28 years and I have seen the regret in both husband's and wive's heart because after the divorce was filed they realized that if they had done the little things, or if they had apologized, or just said they were wrong, or got help from a counselor, or if they had not listen to foolish advice or if they just gave their mate more attention or if they had listened to the Holy Spirit they would be married and not living by themselves while raising children. Let me recommend the following for you: 1) Bishop Johnson and Ladies Carolyn series on " Blended Families or their series on the Principle of Mutuality 2) Dr. Douglas Rosenau's " A Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds"; A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God's Gift; A Celebration of Sex After 50 3) Also, Dr. Douglas Rosenau's has a world renowned psychological practice committed to sexual health in the marriage in Metro Atlanat 4) 7 Things He'll Never Tell You- Dr. Kevin Leman
