You were made for love

Since God is love and we are made in His image, you and I were made for love. In fact, just as the Father , Son and Holy Spirit live in a eternal community of self giving love, we are made for relationship. The boundaries that guarantee the greatest fulfillment in relationships are found in the word of God. Satan loves to take something that is God given and pervert it. The rejection-triad seeds our hearts and mind with satanic propaganda that causes us to reject ourselves. If you reject yourself, you cannot fully  accept others into your heart unless they exist to medicate the pre-existing pain in your heart from prior relationships. Rejection can makes us intensely focused on ourselves. We begin to believe that the relationship primarily exist to meet our needs. When the other person can no longer gives us our " emotional fix" because what met the need yesterday, cannot meet the need today we either look for someone else  to supply the "emotional fix" or use fear and manipulation to make the other person give us what we want. We are best when we give. In fact, a man and woman in marriage are at they best when they focus on being givers. If my heart is wounded, the tendency is to give to get my " emotional fix". This does not bring fulfillment to other person.  Feel free to ask questions about  the rejection- triad. There are ways to get free from this emotional mayhem without disconnecting yourself from your marriage. If there is violence or physical abuse immediately get professional assistance. A renowned man of God said, If I change, everything  change. Sometimes when we  see our wrong without attaching its existence to our mates action  and change without requiring our mate to change it provides an environment that positions the marriage for revitalization. We can only see our sin the right way when we see our sin against God. This prevents us from basing our repentance on our mates repentance. We are living a season where God wants to heal relationships.  If there is violence or physical abuse get immediate help from a professional. What questions or remarks do you have? 

For marriage: Possible symptoms that one needs ministry regarding rejection, self rejection and fear of rejection

Possible symptoms that one needs to be set free from the fear of rejection and self rejection:

1. A tendency to think that any constructive criticism or simple complaints as rejection. These are not meant to be personal attacks. If no one can share their heart regarding what's bothering them, one's marriage can grow. A healthy can person can distinguish between  who they are from their personal opinions or bias. 
2. The more you ignore your mate's complaints or criticism  because you perceive them to be rejection of you, you will certainly provoke personal verbal / emotional attacks from them towards you. If you one never deals with the rejection, nothing will ever be solved in the marriage. This will produce hopelessness. 
3. We resent criticism or compliants because we perceive them to be rejection of us. Such thinking causes one to focus upon themselves to the extent that they cannot see anything from their spouse's perception. 
4. Accepting emotional abuse, physical abuse, or neglect as the norm in your marriage
5. Feeling like your spouse does not like the real you, which keeps you from being the real you
6. Constantly thinking your spouse sees you as stupid, ugly, dumb, etc 
7. Feeling like you are going to lose your spouse to someone else because of your inadequacies or imperfections. 
8. NEEDING TO RELY ON YOUR SPOUSE AS THE SOURCE OF YOUR EMOTIONAL VALIDATION AND AUTHENTICATION OF YOUR SELF WORTH
9. Needing his or her agreement with all of  your opinions, values and perspectives to feel good about yourself
10. Feel betrayed when they don't embrace your point of view on all things
11. Unable to say your wrong without your mate saying they are wrong, not willing to be accountable for one's wrong doing
12. Have an expectation in your heart to be rejected by your mate and others 
13. Unable to see it from your mates perspectives 
14. Communicates in your marriage from a defensive posture 
15. JESUS WANTS TO FREE US FROM REJECTION, SELF REJECTION AND FEAR OF REJECTION

Freedom From Rejection as a marriage partner- What to do after you have been delivered from the spirit of rejection as a Spouse

I have been involved in deliverance ministry for many years. I have seen the devastation that the spirit of rejection can bring to a marriage or family. Deliverance ministry is not the only ministry needed to be free from self rejection, fear of rejection and the rejection of others. In order to experience lasting freedom from deliverance one must first of all do the following:

1. Repent of the sins that one has released in the marriage from rejection
2. Once delivered do not make it your mission to point it out in your mate 
3. Rejection distorts communication and perception in a spouse's heart towards their mate-therefore one must allow the Holy Spirit to work on the plank their own eye.  You cannot safely remove the splinter from your mate's eyes when there is a plank in our own eye. You may see the splinter but you lack the skill to remove the splinter
4. Daily saturate your heart and mind with the blood of Jesus. Jesus was the most rejected man whoever lived. Apply the blood from His heart( wound from his side) to the seeds of rejection in your heart, the blood from His face ( upon your self esteem), the blood from His skin for the removal of self will from your heart in your relationship with your spouse, the blood from His crown for the removal of all word curses from your mouth  and the mouth of others against your mate and marriage, the blood from His feet to soften your heart so that you can be discipled and coached by others in the repair of your marriage , the blood from his hands to activate productive actions that revive your marriage and the blood from His back to heal your marriage. Remember Rev. 12:11 says they overcame the enemy by the blood of Jesus .
5. Take every thought of self rejection and the fear of rejection to the cross of Jesus Christ
6. In your daily devotion, simply receive a fresh outpouring of the " Father's love " upon your own heart. Once deliverance takes place, your heart must be filled to overflowing with the knowledge of the Father's love. This realm of revelation will cause you to see your mate with new eyes
7. Daily carry all wounds to Christ. I apply the " Blood of Jesus " to my heart when it becomes confused through offenses. There are times we are offended because our perceptions are wrong. If you are honest and willing the Holy Spirit will help you
8. Do you not base your obedience to God in your marriage on your mate's obedience to God. If you base your obedience to God in your marriage regarding how you treat your mate on your mate  changing, your obedience becomes manipulative. ( Jezebel Spirit) 
9. Daily speak confessions regarding who your in Christ over your life 
10. Shower your mate with love, with positive words, etc 

2013 Prophetic Word

Prophetic Word: Sustained corporate prayer and morning prayer devotions are keys for breakthrough in this season and onward as we enter 2013. As the momentum of corporate prayer grow in local churches, local churches of various denomination that are devoted to Jesus Christ will come together for seasons of corporate prayer. Ongoing corporate prayer is the gate to revival and increased levels of th

e manifestation of the glory of God. The aroma of holiness and the lifestyle of sanctification shall prevail by the working of the grace of God from within in our hearts. it will be said, the grace of God works powerfully within my people. Corporate prayer will be used in 2013 to stop the course of pending weather disasters, earthquakes, war and terrorist attacks. Covenant breaking in Atl and others areas of the US among churches and leaders has resulted in massive financial insufficiency, family division and the lack of anointing to produce miracles. As the blood of Jesus is applied and repentance occurs among severed joints of relationships within churches, among churches and among apostolic and prophetic gifts, open heavens shall manifest in the middle of schools, companies, colleges and universities. Corporate prayer will be used by the Lord to heal the breeches created by covenant breaking and the spirit of death shall be restrained from its increased activity. Let corporate prayer begin in every local church. Let all believers arise in the early hours to pray and seek the face of the Father. Seek the Lord with all of your heart and He will be found of you. The harvest angels are present working  among the harvesters to bring in the harvest. I was not planning to write this, but it began to flow, so forgive me for grammar errors. Every church will be known as the house of prayer, the gate of heaven where the angels of God ascend and descending releasing mighty miracles in the house of God. Atlanta get ready for a big embrace from the Holy Spirit. He is looking upon Atlanta and is about to bring forth men and women of God who have been pruned for the last seven to 12 years. Fruitfulness shall prevail for another 20 years. Rejoice Rejoice Rejoice for the seasons are changing and in 2013 revival shall break forth in key locations, even in November and December of this year.