For marriage: Possible symptoms that one needs ministry regarding rejection, self rejection and fear of rejection

Possible symptoms that one needs to be set free from the fear of rejection and self rejection:

1. A tendency to think that any constructive criticism or simple complaints as rejection. These are not meant to be personal attacks. If no one can share their heart regarding what's bothering them, one's marriage can grow. A healthy can person can distinguish between  who they are from their personal opinions or bias. 
2. The more you ignore your mate's complaints or criticism  because you perceive them to be rejection of you, you will certainly provoke personal verbal / emotional attacks from them towards you. If you one never deals with the rejection, nothing will ever be solved in the marriage. This will produce hopelessness. 
3. We resent criticism or compliants because we perceive them to be rejection of us. Such thinking causes one to focus upon themselves to the extent that they cannot see anything from their spouse's perception. 
4. Accepting emotional abuse, physical abuse, or neglect as the norm in your marriage
5. Feeling like your spouse does not like the real you, which keeps you from being the real you
6. Constantly thinking your spouse sees you as stupid, ugly, dumb, etc 
7. Feeling like you are going to lose your spouse to someone else because of your inadequacies or imperfections. 
8. NEEDING TO RELY ON YOUR SPOUSE AS THE SOURCE OF YOUR EMOTIONAL VALIDATION AND AUTHENTICATION OF YOUR SELF WORTH
9. Needing his or her agreement with all of  your opinions, values and perspectives to feel good about yourself
10. Feel betrayed when they don't embrace your point of view on all things
11. Unable to say your wrong without your mate saying they are wrong, not willing to be accountable for one's wrong doing
12. Have an expectation in your heart to be rejected by your mate and others 
13. Unable to see it from your mates perspectives 
14. Communicates in your marriage from a defensive posture 
15. JESUS WANTS TO FREE US FROM REJECTION, SELF REJECTION AND FEAR OF REJECTION